Transition: The Story of How I Became a Man by Chaz Bonooh, chaz. oh, there are so many things about this book that irritated me. let me count them!
1. okay, im not one of those people who thinks that one must live a truly extraordinary life to write a good memoir. i think that, if one has an eye for detail, a love for the absurd, and the ability to tell a good story, one can write a brilliant memoir about waiting for the bus or going to the grocery store or whatever. chaz has none of those talents and hes written (i use quotes because he had a ghostwriter help him!) THREE memoirs. he really has not done enough, or had enough interesting thoughts about his limited life experience, to write three memoirs!
2. on that note...he has NO storytelling abilities. more than one story of meeting a girlfriend goes something like, she was beautiful. she was 54 and average build. i was in love with her! its like, really, chaz? you think its so important that your readers know that your girlfriend was an extremely average height, but wont tell us anything actually interesting about her??! like maybe why you loved her? like, can you describe anything you like about her besides she was feminine. she wore makeup and shaved her legs. ooookay.
3. early on in the book, chaz makes a statement how if your gender in your brain doesnt match the gender in your body, the ONLY way you can live a full and happy life is to medically transition. no, its not, chaz! ever hear of genderqueers? ever hear of people who arent the child of millionaires and cant afford to transition and struggle on anyway and manage to live? ever get the concept that gender is a spectrum? UGH. i understand what hes saying, but it seems kinda fucked that hes making statements about the ONLY way to live. life is not black and white!
4. on that note, he has NO consciousness of how unbelievably privileged he is. and how many trans people face really harsh financial barriers to employment, transition, etc. i can understand why hes stressed about the paparazzi hassling him, and he certainly has taken a beating in the tabeloids for being an out transperson. but, geez, i wish he could come to my job at the welfare office and hang out with the transpeeps trying to live on their $674-a-month SSI payments because they are not considered employable (yes, you can get SSI--a federal disability payment--for gender identity disorder, if the government thinks your gender nonconformity makes it not possible to find a job). maybe that would put things in perspective.
5. DONT THROW FAT PEOPLE UNDER THE BUS! not ok for ANYONE. he made some bitchy comment about having a nudist roommate and how unfortunately, her body made her nudity unenjoyable. (not a direct quote, but the gist of it) fuck you!
6. he repeats himself ALLL the time--sometimes twice in one paragraph! yes, chaz, we know that you are the child of celebrities. we know that you used to be a cute little girl. we knew the first time you said it that youve felt like a guy your whole life. you dont have to tell us like 20 times!
7. he blames every single problem in his life on being trans. im not saying that being trans is a walk in the park, or that it doesnt/shouldnt affect many aspects of his life, but when he blamed his severe cramps/endometriosis on being trans, and feeling uncomfortable with his womanly parts, i had to give my eyes a big old roll. lots of women who have no issues with their gender get really bad cramps, too. in fact, most people with uteri can agree that theyre pretty much landmines. unfortunately, to have a uterus often means that one will have some monthly suffering, regardless of your relationship to yr gender. or when he said that he was unable to make small talk at parties because he was gender non-conforming! and now that hes a guy he can make smalltalk! argh, my head exploded.
okay. there are some good things too. good for you, chaz, for sticking yr neck out. for coming out publicly. for making some extremely isolated trans people feel less alone. for writing a book thats accessible to a lot of people. i laughed aloud at one thing that i think was supposed to be funny--i think it was the statement about realizing that the trans community is a community of nerds. good for you for admitting past wrongs. for trying to rectify yr mistakes. for living through bad things. i really wish youd written about your involvement with the most amazing 90s lesbian movie of all time, BAR GIRLS!! why did you tantalize me with that snippet about working at girlbar, the bar where it all started, but not mention that movie?!? oh well.
anyway, the good parts are why i gave it 2 stars. there were more things i had to say, but i forgot.
Trans Chaz Bono Eyes Risky Surgery to Construct Penis
Chaz Bono may take the final step in his transition from female to male and have penile reconstruction, a complex procedure that can be risky. Born Chastity, the son of '60s pop icons Sonny and Cher, Bono says he knew from an early age that he was born in the wrong body. Since going public in , he has injected himself with testosterone, grown body hair and surgically removed his breasts. Now, the "Dancing With the Stars" contestant has told Rolling Stone magazine that "within a short while he will finally be able to afford to get himself a penis. Bono said that he has looked into either the simplest procedure that uses clitoral tissue to build a micro-penis or a full phalloplasty, where surgeons take skin from another part of the body and roll it to create a phallus that is attached to the groin.
Chaz Bono , eight months into his gender reassignment, said he is now living the life he always wanted. Bono, born Chastity Bono to singer and actress Cher and the late Sonny Bono, said the entire process of transitioning from female to male will take about four to five years. So far, he's received hormone treatments that have caused his voice to deepen and he's had his breasts removed. Bono -- who reiterated his stance that "gender is between your ears and not between your legs" -- said the biggest hurdle of his decision to begin gender reassignment was the realization that "I'm not going to be able to do this privately as most people can. Looking back, Bono said, "it would almost be easy to say, 'Why did I wait so long to do this? And if his public transformation helps others struggling with the same issues, then "I'm happy to do that. Now that Bono, who lives in California with Jennifer Elia, his girlfriend of four years, is one of the most recognizable faces of the transgender community , his mother Cher has pledged to stand behind her child.
He was first introduced to the world as Chastity , a golden-haired little girl in the arms of her famous parents, Sonny and Cher , but after undergoing gender reassignment surgery, he is now Chaz Bono. In a rare and candid interview at his home in West Hollywood, Calif. I think of it as hormones that, you know, went in the brain but not in the body, and that's all being transgender is. It's just that the sex of your body and the gender of the brain don't match up. It took Bono nearly four decades to reach the point at which he decided he wanted to have gender reassignment surgery to become a male. The process began after Bono's 40th birthday in March -- over a decade after he had publically come out as a lesbian. Bono began receiving testosterone injections , which helped make his voice deeper and produced facial hair.
Chaz Salvatore Bono is an American writer, musician and actor. His parents are entertainers Sonny Bono and Cher. Bono is a trans man. In , while then identifying as a woman, and several years after being Between 20 , Bono underwent female-to-male gender transition. A two-part Entertainment Tonight.
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Thank you for signing up. Sorry, it looks like an error occurred. Many people remember Chaz Bono as Chastity, Sonny and Cher's little blonde daughter, but in recent years she has made the transition to life as a man. Many people remember Chaz as Chastity, the blonde-haired, chubby-cheeked little girl who appeared on her parents' s television show, The Sonny And Cher Show. Growing up as the child of celebrities is never easy, but it's even harder when you're in the process of deciding to undergo the transition from woman to man. The year-old's journey has been well documented by the media, as well as in the two books Bono has written and the documentary Becoming Chaz. That attention has been bittersweet for Bono, an ambassador and advocate for the trans community who is in Sydney for the Mardi Gras Festival.