True Ladies and Proper Gentlemen: Victorian Etiquette for Modern-Day Mothers and Fathers, Husbands and Wives, Boys and Girls, Teachers and Students, and More by Sarah A. ChrismanRegardless of time period, some things hold true: kindness is timeless.
Invasion of privacy; divorce; relationship issues; encounters between people from different places and cultures; new technologies developed at dizzying speeds . . . the hectic pace of life in the late nineteenth century could make the mind reel.
Wait a minute—the nineteenth century?
Many of the issues people faced in the 1880s and ’90s surprisingly remain problems in today’s modern world, so why not take a peek at some Victorian advice about negotiating life’s dizzying twists and turns? Gathered from period magazines and Hill’s Manual of Social and Business Forms, a book on social conduct originally published in 1891, this volume provides timeless guidance for a myriad of situations, including:
The husband’s duty: Give your wife every advantage that it is possible to bestow.
Suggestions about shopping: Purchasers should, as far as possible, patronize the merchants of their own town. (Buy local!)
Suggestions for travel: Having paid for one ticket, you are entitled to only one seat. It shows selfishness to deposit a large amount of baggage in the surrounding seats and occupy three or four.
Unclassified laws of etiquette: Never leave home with unkind words.
This advice is accompanied by watercolors and illustrations throughout. Though these are tips originate from nineteenth-century ideas, you’ll find that they certainly do still apply.
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But it doesn't have to be dead. Chivalry can be resurrected. As far as revolving doors go, modern manners dictate that a gentleman allow the woman to enter first. Car doors are no exception, regardless of who is driving. The idea being, of course, to protect her from traffic, debris, puddles and other urban calamities.
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Invasion of privacy; divorce; relationship issues; encounters between people from very different places and cultures; new technologies developing at dizzying speeds—these concerns were as much a part of the hectic pace of life in the late 19th century as they are today. Here the author of Victorian Secrets: What a Corset Taught Me about the Past, the Present, and Myself gathers advice and illustrations from Victorian magazines and from Hill's Manual of Social and Business Forms , a book on proper conduct originally published in , resulting in a surprisingly timely handbook that shows our ancestors were not so different from us after all. For example, the husband's duty: give your wife every advantage that it is possible to bestow. Purchasers should, as far as possible, patronize the merchants of their own town buy local. Having paid for one ticket, you are entitled to only one seat; it shows selfishness to deposit a large amount of baggage in the surrounding seats and occupy three or four. And, among the unclassified laws of etiquette: never leave home with unkind words.
Editorial Reviews. From the Author. Sarah A. Chrisman is the author of Victorian Secrets: What a Corset Taught Me about the Past, the Present, and Myself.
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Acting like a lady is carrying yourself with dignity, which also empowers a man to be a gentleman. Many of us want a true gentleman, but I believe we hold the power to the way we are treated in our hands. In all areas of life, I believe being a lady displays self-respect, class, appreciation and etiquette. It also allows you to enjoy the niceties of life with the ease of knowing how to act in all situations. After doing some new research and also recalling my southern roots which included cotillion and etiquette classes, here are 21 lost lady like traditions that still apply today:.
RSS Feed. With Thanksgiving approaching, I thought some people might appreciate the following excerpt from the dining chapter of my upcoming etiquette book now available for pre-order! Etiquette of the Table Rules to be Observed Sit upright, neither too close nor too far away from the table. Open and spread upon your lap or breast a napkin, if one is provided—otherwise a handkerchief. Do not be in haste; compose yourself; put your mind into a pleasant condition, and resolve to eat slowly. Keep the hands from the table until your time comes to be served. It is rude to take knife and fork in hand and commence drumming on the table while you are waiting.
It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say he is one who never inflicts pain. This description is both refined and, as far as it goes, accurate. He is mainly occupied in merely removing the obstacles which hinder the free and unembarrassed action of those about him; and he concurs with their movements rather than takes the initiative himself. His benefits may be considered as parallel to what are called comforts or conveniences in arrangements of a personal nature: like an easy chair or a good fire, which do their part in dispelling cold and fatigue, though nature provides both means of rest and animal heat without them. The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause ajar or a jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast; all clashing of opinion, or collision of feeling, all restraint, or suspicion, or gloom, or resentment; his great concern being to make every one at their case and at home. He has his eyes on all his company; he is tender towards the bashful, gentle towards the distant, and merciful towards the absurd; he can recollect to whom he is speaking; he guards against unseasonable allusions, or topics which may irritate; he is seldom prominent in conversation, and never wearisome.