Aspergers in Love by Maxine C. AstonAsperger syndrome (AS) has often been considered to be incompatible with love and relationships, but as the number of people who are diagnosed with the disorder increases, it is becoming apparent that people with AS can and do have full and intimate relationships. Comparing and contrasting both AS and non-AS partners viewpoints, this book frankly examines the fundamental aspects of relationships that are often complicated by the disorder. With all findings illustrated with case examples taken from interviews conducted with couples, the author tackles issues such as attraction, trust, communication, sex and intimacy, and parenting. Drawing on her extensive research and established career as a Relate counsellor, Maxine Aston has produced a much-needed analysis of intimate relationships where one adult has AS and this book is a must for all those with AS and their partners, as well as for friends, family and counsellors.
The Truth About Asperger's Syndrome - 4 - Intimate Relationships
Romantic Relationships for Young Adults with Asperger's Syndrome and High-Functioning Autism
Clinical experience has identified that the majority of such adolescents and young adults would like a romantic relationship. However, there is remarkably little research examining this aspect of autism spectrum disorders ASDs or strategies to facilitate successful relationships. Typical children do this naturally and have practised relationship skills with family members and friends for many years before applying these abilities to achieve a successful romantic relationship. They also can have an extreme sensitivity to particular sensory experiences. To achieve a successful relationship, a person also needs to understand and respect him- or herself. His requests for a date had been consistently rejected.
Relationships are all about communication. This adversely affects the important quality of empathy, which is vital to a successful and fulfilling relationship. People involved in relationships with a mindblind partner report feeling invalidated, unsupported, unheard, unknown and uncared for. They suffer from severe, ongoing emotional deprivation that results in depression, loneliness, anger, low self-esteem, emotional breakdown, PTSD and physical illness. Many study the words and behavior of NT people around them, and copy it. They learn exactly what they should do and say in a romantic relationship, since none of it comes naturally to them.
When people meet me for the first time, they're often surprised to learn that I have Asperger syndrome. So begins today's guest blog, from my friend and fellow author David Finch. Like me, he has Asperger's. In this essay, David writes movingly about how his Asperger's affected his marriage, and what he's done to build a good life with the typical female of his dreams. As compliments go, it's not so bad. Still, I can't help but feel a little like an unfrozen Neanderthal when I hear comments like that. What can I say?
Love and affection
A little while ago a client of mine walked into my office. She was completely distraught over the demise of her relationship with her boyfriend. Many men have issues communicating — and many resort to stonewalling or withdrawing when they sense acrimony. Autism Spectrum Disorder ASD is a neurodevelopmental disorder characterized by difficulties socializing, narrow or obsessive interests, compulsive adherence to rituals and routines, and communication problems. Here are a few ways to know if your partner might have Autism Spectrum Disorder and how to avoid Cassandra Syndrome:. People on the spectrum have a tendency to go into long boring monologues on their special interests or opinions — and without an internal social meter to tell them they are not being well-received or are going on too long — they have a tendency to come across as one-sided and even sanctimonious in some cases. Many adults with ASD do not realize they are doing this and thus do not think it is a problem or a behavior they should change.
Being able to express your emotions and be emotionally supportive of each other is the lifeblood of a healthy relationship. This can be difficult though, if you are in a neuro-diverse marriage, and over time you can both run out of energy trying to deal with these challenges. I will start with what it feels like to be a neurotypical partner with an Aspie, and then also talk about what it feels like to be an Aspie in a relationship with a neurotypical person. Here is a point questionnaire we have created that will help as a starting point. But the more of these points that you feel fit your relationship, the more likely that ASD can explain your particular set of difficulties. Each partner has very different and unique needs and these need to be taken into account.